**Nolan** @nolan@toot.cafe · May 01, 2018, 14:01

**Nolan** @nolan@toot.cafe · May 01, 2018, 14:01

Nolan @nolan@toot.cafe

"I tried leaving Facebook. I couldn’t" by Sarah Jeong https://www.theverge.com/2018/4/28/17293056/facebook-deletefacebook-social-network-monopoly

Great read, and this comment in a thread by her also hits home for me: https://twitter.com/sarahjeong/status/990974005162094599

**zigg** @zigg · May 01, 2018, 15:24

**zigg** @zigg · May 01, 2018, 15:24

@nolan What's interesting to me about the linked comment is not just the fact that women suffer from giving that emotional labor, but men are shortchanged by having it done for them.

There's a crisis of men who can't maintain the social relationships they need to thrive in life, and toxic masculinity is part to blame--but being insulated from emotional labor and developing the emotional maturity needed to maintain friendships can't be helping.

**Matthew Graybosch** @starbreaker@octodon.social · May 01, 2018, 15:37

**Matthew Graybosch** @starbreaker@octodon.social · May 01, 2018, 15:37

@zigg @nolan

It's not like we teach people how to create and maintain social relationships. We just assume kids will figure it out on their own. That's great for the kids who do, but not so great for the kids who could use some help.

**zigg** @zigg · 2018-05-01T15:45:31Z

zigg @zigg

@starbreaker @nolan It's gonna be tough to teach kids emotional maturity of this kind, but it's worth it.

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**Matthew Graybosch** @starbreaker@octodon.social · May 01, 2018, 15:47

**Matthew Graybosch** @starbreaker@octodon.social · May 01, 2018, 15:47

@zigg @nolan

If it's tough, maybe we need to rethink the way we educate children in the US. Maybe the emphasis on academics is misplaced?