take, for instance, the idea that it's "unprofessional" to talk about pay rate with your coworkers. the reason cited is because it might make coworkers feel bad that their incomes are different despite doing the same work. that's kind of a deflection making talking about pay rate the fault of the employee, rather than observing that lack of equitable pay is the fault of the employer.
granted, there are of course people who think they deserve to be making more money than others, but that's kind of a whole other complicating
set of issues based on other lies capitalism tells us rather than making the deflection-of-fault problem irrelevant