Toni♦️ @toni@cybre.space

A spooky walk home

Salutation univers! ✨

Du blep de chaton dans vos timelines en ce dimanche !

Which open source kernel/OS is your favorite? Reply if yours isn't in the poll.

Pentax Q7 said trans rights

Da ich überlege das zu machen: Hat hier jemand Erfahrung mit Seminaren zur Zertifizierung als SCRUM-Master*in?

UPD: Pins are up in the shop!
https://www.hellovoid.online/category/enamel-pins

Wrocław

Person: So, how are you?

Me: literally none of the things I could bring up right now are tonally appropriate conversation topics. Um.

Tusker (my iOS app for Mastodon) is going to need an app icon soon. I can make something crappy to use in the short term, but in the slightly longer term I'd like to commission. someone to make a nice one. So, if you are or know an artist who does app icons and are open for commissions, please let me know!

(boosts appreciated)

I'm looking for anyone who'd be willing to be interviewed or have a chat about their experiences of using technology in the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s as part of a #DigiPres project to document the growth and change in that time.

Please drop me a reply or DM if you're interested.

Who am I looking for? Software people, gamers, enthusiasts, fellow nerds... anyone who used and/or loved technology around the start of the PC boom and birth of the WWW around the world.

It does my heart good to know that this is published in a peer reviewed medical journal

ANNUAL REMINDER

there are actually a huge number of boomers who exclusively go by chosen names (Junior, Bubba, Doc, etc) and iʼve definitely heard stories of them getting frustrated by not being able to use those names in official circumstances. humans have been changing their names and going by nicks & epithets for the entirety of chronicled human history; going by Your Legal Name In All Circumstances is largely a Gen Xer thing.

when you see organizations accepting chosen names over legal names, donʼt think of it as a change in social norms. itʼs more just a cultural remembering that bureaucracy doesnʼt define who we are. draw power from that history.

So this graph has been going around twitter and now mastodon (and even AVEN have RTd someone correcting the inclusion of asexuality) but I just wanted to write my own "why asexuality doesn't relate to libido" post! (there are also several other issues with the graph but this is very glaring)

This graph puts asexual on the Libido/Sexual drive spectrum, opposite to Hypersexual. This is incredibly wrong.

So, first of all, sexual attraction, sexual desire (libido) and sexual action are three separate spectrums.

Sexual attraction is who you are sexually attracted to - so for a bi person that could be people of any gender, a gay man is attracted to men etc

Sexual desire (libido) is how interested you are in having sex, regardless of who you are attracted to

Sexual action is how much you have sex, again regardless of who you are attracted to.

gender is your 5th-grade report card that just has "good student, should pay more attention in class" that you still can't get over and gave you a complex

good groundwork:

don't teach your kid obedience to authority. teach your kid to question you, and treat them like you value their developing reasoning skills. admit when you are wrong. regularly apologize to your child when you are wrong. you can't teach a kid that cops aren't good if you act like a cop.

i told my kid that a rule can be bad, and that a rule is bad if it causes you to hurt people. the example of a bad rule i gave was it being illegal in some places to give food to houseless people.

i said that being arrested doesn't mean that you've done something bad, and it typically means that you've broken a rule. so i told her that the job of police is to arrest and punish people who have broken a rule, even if the rule is one that hurts people.

tonight i explained to my 3 year old why "the police arrest Bad People" (a sentence uttered in one episode of a toddler show she watches) is incorrect in an age-appropriate way.

i feel immense relief about this because i can't maintain my integrity if i allow my kid to develop the idea that cops and rules are inherently good.