At the same time, looking at someone who opens their personality to us means we need to respect them for this favor and behave accordingly with them. When someone opens the door to their personality, they are not promising me anything or giving me any hint other than "I'm OK to let you know more about me".

When we are ready to behave in such a way, we put ourselves in the perfect position to get in contact with the potential people who think that they are attracted to us and with whom we're simultaneously feeling the same impression of attraction. It creates the opportunity to try to build something out of it, and that's how a relationship (of any kind) starts in my opinion.

There's still much to say about why people with personal issues, insecures, may have tremendous difficulties to build a relationship : they protections they put to survive completely closed these doors and now that the danger is gone (if it is!), reopening them is very, very hard.

Well, I would have much more to say but I don't have the time now.

I hope it makes some sense.

@soza it definitely makes sense. I'm slowly learning to open these doors, and you basically articulated my own thoughts going thru this process, so thanks for sharing it ^^

@jruka aw you're welcome :) It took me a while to do so ( and I'm still in the process !) but I can assure you that it's definetly worth the efforts. Things that seemed almost impossible for me some years ago happen now almost regularly... and that's great ! and I'm super happy of all the efforts I've put on opening myself and being someone who's easy to approach, while keeping and assuming my values, even stronger that before !

Keep going, it will only go better and better ^^

@soza Yeah it has gotten a bit better and I'm sure it will continue to do so ^^ Thanks!