So long as we cultivate communities of containment spaces that seek to cleanse themselves of toxic influence, instead of allowing people to independently burden the dialogue they want to engage in -- and filter out -- as adults, moderates are going to only be welcomed in radical, ignorance/hate-oriented sectors, or else pushed into anonymity and not addressed, healed or understood
There are more moderates than there are any of us. And if they're only actually accepted in a space that doesn't grow their understanding of other people, but turn them on something that seems like a cliquish, tightly-wound bubble from the outside, we're going to keep having this awful tension.
I think about this a lot — because like, I kept asking myself, why are so many progressive dudes in my life fucking AFRAID of us? Like terrified of saying the wrong thing. Saying they absolutely cannot understand and won't try. They're nervously spouting these rules to be included, conditionally, terrified of it being pulled away.
And then I realised — I'm the same way. I'm just as terrified. But who can burden that fear? And where is it released? I think you have a few ideas where
@sophia A growing current in the left is that callout culture has made it impossible to "just" make a mistake - it's now "one mistake and you're done, you were never one of us."
Just seeing it happen is enough to make one say and do nothing.
There is also the angry current of "You're not $foo, and no matter what you can't understand $foo, so shut up." That is, at least, a big thing in California right now in the queer community.
@drwho I make art for the explicit opposite purpose. It's using genre so you can understand me without the burden of the identity framework
@sophia Not that long ago I was speaking with a mother of a son who was accepted to (I think) UC Riverside. She was terrified that he'd get accused of sexual assault, knowing that he'd never get a fair hearing as the accused.
I didn't know what to tell her, other than to suggest a correspondence college.
That's evidence of a pretty hostile-seeming environment (even if it isn't really hostile). That's how the left looks to moderates - I think that you realise this.
As soon as one starts thinking about groups of people as "them, not us," the first mistake has already been made.