A post about setting up a mobile friendly #XMPP server: https://kwiecien.us/archives/2019/10/16/ejabberd_vs__prosody/index.html
TL;DR: Use ejabberd. Set up a cron job to trim message history and network activity logs - they *will* go out of hand.
@polychrome I have used both in the past and from my experience I'd go for ejabberd, as prosody (at least back then) wasn't as stable nor reliable.
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