cybre!pamela 🌺 @pmosetc@cybre.space

New Instance, newly-edited #introductions post:

Hi, I'm Pamela! I live by a great lake (well, it's alright). I really love animals and have a pet turtle and cats. I like to learn new things and work with my hands. I like ecology, #STEM, #gameing, #openbsd, books and nature, and I enjoy painting but don't spend enough time doing it.

I have #agoraphobia and write about that pretty regularly, now, as well as my experiences with microwork.

omg
and someone made a fan animation of my new favorite video using a FFXIV OC and their pet dodo
https://steak-n-popotoes.tumblr.com/post/190845250495/mossygator-malq-ffxiv-oc-and-his-beloved-dodo

I just... okay I'll stop spamming but my friends, the internet is so amazingly good

(fine I lied it's a duck. everyone likes geese though. liiiiiike space goose! )

This dropped me into a really interesting makeup-as-art rabbit hole, which unexpectedly spat me out at my new favorite video, with goose: https://twitter.com/HartYT_/status/1228149203261698048

omg 😍 💅 🤴 he's so beautiful

https://twitter.com/Lithunium_Snow/status/1230077638812848128

okay c'mon pamela, time for icky pants, just get dressed, you get coffee!

If your complaints about human beings are always variations of the same complaint, it's time to stop and think about why people disappoint you in the same way over and over again.

We say 'maybe the problem is you,' and I think that's an unnecessary simplification. But frequent anger isn't normal, and it's not reasonable to blame people over and over again for a *specific* form of failure in your interactions with others. At that point, there's an issue on your end.

Without employing good empathy or judgment, without thinking about alternatives for why people might make the choices they do, without allowing for individual variation in behavior, you easily start creating an assumption 'people do x'. But people don't actually behave that similarly, do they?

We, however, *do* start looking at their impact on us in very simple, broad categories of how they affect our status or wellbeing, and sorting them accordingly.

That's threat modeling. That's not rational, and we can't rely on that information.

It *was* gym day, yay! And I didn't know it was a holiday, and the parking lot and giant building were entirely full!

But I still managed to work out and hit the sauna for random gruesome injury story time from the other people (ew) and showered and escaped and had a pita with a cutie.

Is it gym day?

I have things to do, but... perhaps going to the gym is one of them?

Many moons ago, Taylor Swift rewrote Romeo and Juliet to have a happy ending, explained exclusively by a throwaway "I talked to your dad" and lo this decade+ later, I would still very much like to know *precisely* what Romeo brought to that negotiating table that this was then immediately followed by "go pick out a white dress"

Went out and got sunshine. ☀️

Sun is definitely still there. 👍

Hey, thanks for the love today, and in many recent weeks, really. How about something different?

Check out this cool public domain photo! It's labeled Rye in Golog, China, and I like how soft it looks, and the interesting green. 💚 CW: ladybug

I think my cat had some mastodon conversations. 🤔 I hope she was polite.

° ° ° ° intensifies

I hadn't realized some folks were never lazy about the ° in their weather complaints because if you're using a non-US layout you have a chance to get a dedicated ° key instead of hitting the character map or whatever, and it's lovely

°°°°°°°

it's going to be a low of -13°C/8°F tomorrow
that's less lovely

*starts looking at something*
".... ohhhhhh" (three weeks later)

and this is why I'm thinking maybe hackathons are wasted on me XD

open a lidl next to the aldi
make them fight 🥊

I like drawing people's fursonas but I'm never sure I'm drawing the right one

move aside tomato soup and grilled cheese

tomato red pepper soup and sourdough cubes panfried in butter needs a turn

Husbands go to work and stop making stuffed unicorns work on Python ports adorably because they're in my workspace challenge