how many people who do not speak german know this video, and how many people who do speak german do not?
it's frustrating too that whenever this kind of thing happens, people think I'm being obstinate / difficult / "overly literal" on purpose and I'm, not? I put a lot of effort into figuring out what to do when instructions vague or absent. I'm actually not that awful at it, but people expect you to be *perfect* even when they don't provide even minimal instructions (or different instructions, or instructions that are obviously false…)
afterwards dad asked why I didn't just tell him I was waiting for my dad and I said "He didn't ask." Which is true but my dad took it to mean that I was being difficult on purpose.
Thinking more now it wasn't just that the guy didn't ask, it was that he was driving the conversation and displayed zero curiosity, zero interest in new information and zero willingness to consider that he might be missing something. He was creating something other than a collaborative dynamic. He didn't seem to want know anything, he just wanted me to not be an edge case.
I checked afterward and you don't need a membership to fill prescriptions or get an eye exam, at least in Ohio.
frustrating interaction 2 of 2 //
(at no point during any of this have I turned to see where this counter that he's talking about is)
I think about saying that I do mind, or just disregarding his preferences, but, again, I am actually not trying to fuck with people. More importantly I've stepped in the "if you don't you mind" trap before and have zero willingness to put up with that speaking-out-of-both-sides-of-your-mouth bullshit. So I say "okay", turn around, and wait in the car for my dad. My dad shows his card and we go in together; guy says nothing.
frustrating interaction 1 of 2 //
he asks: "Do you have a membership card?"
I say: "No."
This really throws me off.
"…?? Because I never acquired one?"
This does not appear to satisfy him.
"I mean, that's the default state? Most people aren't born with one?"
He says: "You need a card to shop here."
I say "Okay" confidently, nod, and turn to walk away, because I'm not here to shop, I'm here for an eye exam & to meet my dad.
"You are a member then?"
"Well, this is a membership club."
"You'll need a membership card to buy anything."
"So, what you need to do is, go to that desk over there and they can get you signed up."
"Do I _need_ a membership to be in the store? Or just to shop?"
"So I don't need to go to the desk and sign up?"
"I would prefer that you did."
(confused) "Oo… kay?"
I would prefer not to, and it seems weird that he expects me to find his preference more important.
I turn to go.
"So if you don't mind, just go to the counter over there…"
frustrating interaction context //
went to the optometrist, that part went well but really frustrating experience w/ the card checker guy at ginormous "members' club" shopping center. I was meeting my dad (has a membership) there, and didn't want stand outside in the cold when there's chairs inside.
I watched some people go in & the guy by the door didn't particularly seem to be interacting with them, plus he turned around and was messing with a stack of water bottle pallets, so I figured I could just walk past him like everybody else was doing.
He nonverbally tries to get my attention and I should have just waved and kept on walking but, and this is important, I am *not actually trying to fuck with people,* I'm just here for the eye exam.
there was a brief discussion on "spiritual but not religious" here (I think kicked off by @shel?) not too long ago
this article makes sense to me:
but possibly only because I read this one first:
https://approachingaro.org/twilight-of-the-isms (by the same author)
(hello yes I'm staying up late reading david chapman again)
encountered an amazing take on western import of hindu/buddhism spirituality: it's almost all bullshit (in that westerners don't take it seriously enough to work) —but— is still a good thing because it builds westerners up for their next life & after a few go-rounds they should be reborn as people who do have the ability to take it seriously
it'd be kinda fuzzy and indistinct probably, but would carry the feel of communing/communicating with something "other". probably only in a small fraction of the people who take it most seriously & are most flexible/suggestible in that way, but like. still.
a somewhat troubling idea that's been bouncing around in my head since I first looked up tulpamancy techniques stuff is, if someone tried to figure out how to make a tulpa like the christian god, they might end up with something like what the "emphasises direct personal experience of God" churches do, in terms of contemplation, focused & frequent prayer, community reinforcement, etc.
(disclaimer: I don't know what they actually do in those types of churches)
my last wiki dive ( https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hakka_walled_village ) from the other day also ended in sewage treatment stuffs so that's kinda neat
long wikipedia excerpt, Ryukuan religion maybe related to ptsd? //
Mabui (まぶい), or "spirit", is a key concept in Ryukyuan religion. Mabui is the essence of the self, somewhat like the soul and somewhat like mana…
Mabui can be lost as the result of fright, stress, loneliness, or helplessness, any circumstances in which a person suffers from a sudden shock or a lack of psychological/physical resources. A coma-like trance is one manifestation of the loss of mabui, but an extreme one. It seems that the loss of one's mabui manifests itself first psychologically, as depression or anxiety, and then physically as general lethargy or actual illness. Poor relationships – be they with the living, the dead, or incorporeal powers – also may result in the loss of mabui.
Performed as the result of the loss (or potential loss) of mabui. After being startled, while scared, or even after a sneeze, one says or has recited over them "Mabuya, mabuya, utikuyou" or simply "Mabuya, mabuya". **One can also regain one's lost mabui simply by doing what one habitually does: sitting in one's favorite chair, sleeping in one's own bed, wearing favorite old clothing, or handling familiar, personal objects.** More formally, a special ceremony can be performed by the family's matriarch… if the case is especially serious, a *yuta* may be involved in the retrieval of one's mabui.
reading that like dang, that sounds like an actually pretty good description of dissociation during trauma, possible complications afterwards (PTSD?), and potentially reasonable courses of treatment. (it sounds like the *yuta* can range from the "buy this lucky item" animal crossing lady to a family-oriented, almost psychoanalytical approach, except that they can still interview your [grand] parents even of they've passed away. potentially like a terry pratchett witch?)
(I know literally nothing about this except what's in the WP article, the scope or broader impact on the city is unclear. But the poatwar Japanese gov't did create the city & named it after the religion founded when it was a rural area [because the followers all moved there b/c that's where the founder was born] so I assume it's not nothing)
this thing is interesting (partially because it's kinda like a massive intentional community?) but I'm particularly interested in this WP passage:
> refers to the ongoing construction as a "medium that combats decontextualization"
b/c they're literally building, like with modern architecture and urban planning, the fulfillment of one of their founder's prophecies. So it's a set of useful day-to-day structures that *cannot* be divorced from the spiritual origins.
so @Ivafakename posted a poll with "historical romance set in the now time" i.e. with historical misconceptions that future people will have of us & oops got nerd sniped following links from the World Religions wikipedia page, particularly the "medium religions" chart
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