singin snek @glitternoodle@cybre.space

abstract thinking about society time: completely outside of all the material differences that make your entry into a field or specialty unlikely if you're not an abled bodied nt cishet white etc dude, even once you are actually in that field, i think a further problem that holds ppl back is that the inability to make casual mistakes fucking TANKS your learning speed

when every mistake you make will be held as evidence that people like you shouldn't be in this field, ur ability to go through a natural "fucking around and learning" entry process into any level of a field or specialty is nonexistent. when the thought process in your head every time you fuck up is "i can't ask anyone about this because they'll think i'm stupid because im just a [x]", developing a skillset becomes Agonizing

headline: "1st preserved dinosaur butthole is 'perfect' and 'unique,' paleontologist says"

subhead: "This was a multipurpose hole."

i regret the impulse to skim the headlines on google news just about every time, but somebody really knocked it out of the park with this one. even the url slug is quality work:

https://www.livescience.com/first-dinosaur-butthole-found.html

I hope that there's a place in heaven for people who are ugly and fuck up a lot. I hope the ranks of the einherjar include people who are older and have PTSD. I hope the bodhisattvas aren't limited to people with pleasant even features who give the right answers all the time.

i kno when people go "oh when i was talking about men i didn't mean you; you're trans" what they mean is "the reason i don't trust cishet men is that statistically speaking they're less likely to have criticized their own relationship to sexism and are more likely to uphold toxic masculinity, but you, as a trans man, have almost certainly been on the receiving end of those things and are thus less likely to do them" but it literally just sounds like "you're not really a man" lmao

or "you're really a man and while i hate men i guess i'll give you a begrudging pass because i want to be supportive of other trans people". anyway here's the thing: don't do that. don't say it. don't say or even vaguely imply anything like this to trans men and/or transmasculine people. decide whether you want to interact with us or not and move on

"oh so trans dudes are annoyed BOTH when they get lumped in with cishet men being sexist/toxic AND when we assume they behave differently than cishet men???" yup!! that's sure fucking right homie!!!

every time you assume trans men participate in masculinity the exact same way that cishet men do you erase an unfathomable amount of sexism associated trauma trans men go through and every time you assume trans men are ~cute and special and better than cis men~ you however unintentionally mimic the rhetoric that trans men will never be Real Men and give every shitty trans man a soft pass. anyway try this: not assuming things about other people's gender

Oh you're androgynous? Is that boy androgynous or girl androgynous?

Not only does LeGuin get a US Postage Stamp, the background celebrates one of the first and most notable #nonbinary characters in #sff.

my $600 stimulus check came the other day. it was actually $429 for me, because apparently the way they calculated it used my 2019 income

so to be clear: i received a check in 2021 because of an event that happened in 2020, which uses 2019 numbers to decide exactly how neglectful they're allowed to be

hey can someone or maybe 2 someones commission me so that i can go buy weed?? i had a nervous breakdown last night and would really like to have some, but i'm not comfortable straight up begging for weed money

the 'friendzone' is actually a layer of hell where you're forced to watch the tv series 'friends'

Poll meant at Black fedi users (newcomers and elders).

Would you be interested in joining a Black-only Masto instance* where older Fedi users could volunteer to give ✌🏾 trainings✌🏾 about online antiblack behavior, how to detect avoid/defend from them, sharing experiences + more general admin/moderation advice for people who would like to run Black/Indigenous instances?

*The instance would be completely defederated from the whole Fediverse, at least for the first weeks/months of its existence.

“More than 200 species of bird are known to ant.”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anting_(bird_activity)