moving to @alexandria
Hey new users!
Welcome to the Fediverse. It's good to have you here!
But, please do remember that you aren't the first ones here. This space existed before you, and we have an existing community & culture. Please respect that.
Fedi isn't a place for Influencers, Brands, or Screaming Matches. It's a place for real social interaction. Fedi is fun, friendly, and *weird*! And it's the home of many queer folks who don't have an accepting community elsewhere.
Please don't destroy what we've built.
websites, society, and a lesson for new fediverse users
I think it is really funny how many people from corporate social media are completely unaware of the concept of vetting a website before immediately signing up with your personal information. They are very confused about the material politics of hosting social media, generally. I've seen websites/instances rise and fall all on the hubris of their operators and moderators since around 2016 at a blinding speed compared to the weird websites that can't talk to each other. One site is nothing without the whole, and there is this thing called "society" which impacts who wants to interact with which sites based on who runs them and how they are ran. Installing a social app doesn't ask you to think about any of that material reality behind how the site runs at all. So they show a kind of annoyance at being informed that actually that does matter for purposes of protecting the vulnerable, just to show that familiar kind of liberal annoyance at actually being exposed to the problems of butcher that keeps the meat on their plate. It makes them think about the bad thoughts, like ethics and values. The invisible politics of their expectations, uncomfortably close to mind.
stolen content
"Excuse me sir? I see your son thinks it's funny that the man on the bus is wearing a diaper. Well, does he think it's funny that I am, in fact, wearing several simultaneously? Hmm? Would he be amused to discover that the nature of my condition precludes dependence upon a single device? That while a single sanitary garment would be all but indistinguishable beneath my trousers, The Lord Our God who reigneth in Wisdom and Glory, has decreed that a half-pack-a-day predicament was to be this man's lot? Be warned, sir, that while crinkles and squishy sounds emitted with the jostles of the road may warm the cheeks with mirth, such a road leads to the abode of a terrible and eternal warmth for sons who practice not forbearance and fathers who spare the rod."
"you should stop autistic masking if it makes you unhappy :("
me stopping autistic masking means writing an essay on why caroline polachek's music attracts a certain genre of trans person and how kate bush vibes resonate past the gender binary.
equipped with historical documents and scientific papers on music-as-language and gender-as-art.
i cannot do this or i sound crazy
but i am absolutely right
*To the tune of "Money money money" by ABBA*
🎶 Puppy puppy puppy / you're a puppy / It's a rich man's world 🎶
A lot of people have no understanding or concept of what it feels like to suddenly "not exist" to everyone you thought you knew and could ask for like, even a smidgen of support from
It doesn't help that "solitary by default" and "(interacting with humans) by default" are two completely different like, states of being for me ???
Especially in covid times where like, not talking for months either means you're depressed or just means that you're dead.
It was. honestly so, so weird and striking and alienating to see all of my social links, even ostensibly online ones, just utterly fall apart when I moved outside of Cardiff. Just like, no more invitations to voice, no more invitations to meet up or knowledge of non-pre-organized meets. No communication from folks for like, months at a time.
Formerly @catgirl.science
v25.0.0 : Wales, UK : Trans : Lesbian : Pan : Plural : Polyam : Disabled : Hacker : Archivist : Learner : little gay girl :))))
I do a lot of things and forget to toot about them!!! Mostly computer
touching but also some music and stuff
Headmates: Nova, Aster, Rebecca, Alexandria (is a subsystem)
I 💖 my partners. Can display polycule graph on request.