If you consider yourself a rational person, and people are telling you you're hurting them, someone else, or the community, then please. Interrogate your motivations.
It is so amazingly easy to draw a chain of implications that ends with something like "they deserve it" or "they're weird" or "they hurt me first." But you not only need to ask why, but you need to ask why in the many different ways. Don't just ask "why do they deserve it?" that's a loaded question. Ask "why should I punish them if they do?"
If you consider yourself a rational person, in particular a rationalist, I highly recommend you learn formal logic.
If you've never learned it formally, you need to take a hard look at how you think logic works, and how it actually does. Knowing lists of logical fallacies is not enough. You must be able to distinguish between valid and sound arguments. You must understand that a fallacy in an argument does not prove the conclusion false. You must understand that debates are not how truth is determined.
@SuricrasiaOnline this was such a big thing for me to realize when it came to my internalized fatphobia, pretty much any superficial thing I could judge someone on. Who cares? They're just living their life. They're just simply *existing*.
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