Just out of interest, does anyone know of a good™ and effective™ way of figuring out the difference between laziness and executive dysfunction?
Or like at the very least like, figuring out what's more/less "difficult" for me?
I know that I'm not overly lazy and that my issues are mostly executive function but I do wanna know when to push myself and when not. It's hard.
@Finnarchist I think sometimes it takes another person's reassurances that you are okay to take breaks when you need them, and that "lazy" is perhaps an unkind way of categorizing your energy levels and needs.
That does make a lot of sense. The only issue is that my main source of reassurance also is #neurodivergent and so our collective idea of #executivefunction and #lazy are kinda skewed by our own brains and internalised ableism.
But what you're saying does make sense. Refraining it away from lazy might help.
Okies. Awesome that makes so much sense and I think I'm gonna approach the subject at some point soon. It will also mean working through some stuff (namely that my executive function doesn't present "as bad" as theirs does and so I end up getting frustrated more easily when they don't/can't do as much around the house as me) but that's not gonna be too difficult I don't reckon.
@Finnarchist I wish you luck! :)
Thanks! I'm gonna need it I think. Haha.
@Finnarchist and I understand what you are saying about your usual source of support.
@Finnarchist my spouse who is neurodivergent has expressed that it is very helpful to be reminded often that their needs are valid and any lack of energy (especially when they expected/wanted more out of themselves) is not a moral failing or 'wrong' at all.
I can see it is still upsetting for them to have fewer internal resources than they wanted, but the reassurances seem to have a useful and positive affect.