When people go on movie dates, do they just part ways immediately after the movie ends, and that's why nobody likes movie dates? Because that's not how you do it
The movie is just a prelude to the normal dinner date afterwards; that way, if it turns out you have nothing else to talk about, you can at least talk about the movie, and it isn't a COMPLETELY awkward nightmare. That's why movie dates are good
A metaphor for what transitioning is like (±)
Transitioning is like being born in clothes that were always just way too tight and you could never really breathe right and moving was hard so you kept still, to finally having somethings (transition, hormones, true friends, …) help you get those clothes off of you and you can breathe for the first time ever. But then you’re fucking naked and panting and sore and that’s also really hard. And then things start to get better, slowly.
Why would you exclude ace people
Like okay look
There is a set standard for all of us: get married to someone of the (binary) opposite sex and have babies
If you don’t fit in with that, if that is opposed within you on a very personal intrinsic level, then you are, according to society, a problematic outlier and really not viewed differently by -phobic Normies than any other person who differs from the expected.
Acephobia is as real as any other and the expectation/ostracizing is real
Brexit, uninformed opinion
Not having kept up with Brexit (i.e. this is an uninformed opinion and explicitly acknowledged as such),
I want it to be hard.
It /should/ be hard to revert back to a time with fewer rights for fewer people. We, as a global society, should disincentivize (punish) societal regression, from any state, regardless of how ‘advanced’ or rich it is.
I don’t want the citizens of the UK suffer, but I want to see the UK government anguish with mistake. A warning to the world.
“Just install Linux on it” is the “just change the engine of your car” of tech.
Not everyone is a mechanic, not everyone wants to be a mechanic, and, if we want a world where freedom is the norm, we must stop expecting everyone to become a mechanic.
Note: this is not because these people are too dumb to be mechanics. It’s because they’re brain surgeons and space-shuttle pilots and they have three kids and they care for a loved one and they don’t have time to also be a mechanic.
Todd Anderson runs a talk/presentation/performance series in NYC called WordHack for people "working at the intersection of language and technology"—it's consistently excellent and a very important community for me. anyway, he's doing an open call for presenters in 2019: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfz0K0Ma6pz0Pp-pgZ08f2H0GKqhkY80KTtw1rDNte5ix_KRQ/viewform if you're in NYC (or plan to be on any of the listed dates) and you think your work fits the bill, you should sign up!
You know what I think didn't really exist 10 years ago and absolutely does now?
An understanding that before we trans women transitioned, we still had certain things in common. It's the idea that nascent trans women are diverse, but not disparate.
That we were all caterpillars of one kind or another, who didn't know we were caterpillars really, and now we're all moths and butterflies. And once we get flying around, we're like "omg! Look! I'm hanging out with other moths!"